Nobody promised that divorce will be a happy experience. Although numerous couples are publicising their divorces as celebrations with "divorce parties" the reality of divorce in the vast majority of cases is that it's not easy; it doesn't feel good; and it's not a "party."
Divorce is never easy. You might have to make decisions on who gets the house in Lake Zurich, who gets the kids for holidays, and even where the family dog is going to live. With the holidays right around the corner, it may seem like an impossible task to start the divorce process and manage the stress of the season. Fortunately, is it not as difficult as it may seem.
If you are thinking about a divorce, you may be looking for some advice on what to do and what to expect. If you have friends or family that have gone through the process, these might be good sources of information. However, if your resources are limited when it comes to other divorcees, it may be difficult to get the friendly advice you need. Like many other women in your situation, you may look to outside sources such as the internet, self-help books, and how-to divorce guides.
One of the worst things about getting divorced is the fear of potentially losing custody of your children. If you weren't expecting the divorce, you may suddenly find yourself living somewhere else and relegated to weekend visits. Worse still, it's possible that your former spouse may try to withhold visitation or parenting time as a means of punishing you for perceived wrongs during the marriage. When this happens, it can be tempting to just refuse to pay child support until you receive visitation. Even in situations where you are allowed to see and spend time with your children, you may feel like you don't want to pay.
You knew the day was coming. It had been building up for years, until finally, the two of you could barely tolerate being in the same room together. You were actually relieved when your husband moved out last week. Now that you have had time to take a few deep breaths, you know that you need to get started on your divorce.
Many couples across the country have either started divorce proceedings or are on their way there. This is a difficult process that can have far-reaching consequences not only for the divorcing adults but also for the children. Custody battles between parents don't make the process any easier. This has led to states across the country, including Illinois, to start making changes to their divorce laws.