One of the worst things about getting divorced is the fear of potentially losing custody of your children. If you weren't expecting the divorce, you may suddenly find yourself living somewhere else and relegated to weekend visits. Worse still, it's possible that your former spouse may try to withhold visitation or parenting time as a means of punishing you for perceived wrongs during the marriage. When this happens, it can be tempting to just refuse to pay child support until you receive visitation. Even in situations where you are allowed to see and spend time with your children, you may feel like you don't want to pay.