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Preparing for 6 months after the divorce is final

You're eager to get divorced. You're happy to be done with what has been an unhappy marriage. It's time to move on.

It's fine to feel this way, but don't get too wrapped up in the excitement or the positive changes you see coming in your life. A lot of times, people feel excited to end their marriages, but then they are completely unprepared for life after divorce. It takes them by surprise.

Don't be too nice: It could ruin your divorce

It is often said that women are too accommodating during a divorce, but the reality is that anyone can get emotional and give too much to the other party. Even if you still have feelings for your spouse or want to give them more out of guilt, it is best not to allow your emotions to guide your divorce.

It is good to want to be amicable during a divorce, but being respectful is different than being a pushover. You can respect the other party without hurting yourself.

Mediation allows you to stay in control of your divorce process

For many people, the most stressful thing about divorce is the loss of control. It often seems like everything is in the hands of the courts. That can be an intimidating situation, especially for someone who likes to manage their life carefully.

Divorce can cause serious upheaval in your financial situation, as well as your social life. It is very difficult to predict how a judge will divide your assets or allocate parental responsibilities and rights. Thankfully, there are options that can give you more control over the divorce process. If you believe it is possible for you to work together with your ex, divorce mediation might be the solution you need.

Can you push for restricted visitation in an Illinois divorce?

For many families, divorce is a long, pitched battle. Both sides probably have a desired outcome in mind, and there probably isn't much overlap between spouses. It is common for each parent to want to secure more time with the children. These rights, called parental allocation in Illinois, are important for the whole family.

When the courts decide custody in a divorce, their main focus is always the best interests of the children. Usually, the courts understand that those interests involve both parents maintaining a relationship with the kids. Sometimes, however, there are extenuating circumstances that make shared custody dangerous or unhealthy for the children. Understanding what circumstances the courts consider when determining parental allocation can help you understand if you have a case for sole custody.

Your options for the home during divorce

Your spouse wants to get a divorce, and you know it is going to get complicated. You both have significant assets, from bank accounts to investments to life insurance policies to a dream home you bought for well more than most people in your peer group can afford to pay.

As the divorce draws near, you really worry about the loss of control. You worry about feeling like your life is falling apart. It's about more than the marriage. Are you going to lose everything you have worked so hard for?

Planning for your child's safety this summer

The summer months sometimes mean that non-custodial parents have children in their home. This can be a challenge because they need to be sure that the children are safe and healthy for the duration of their visit. There are several things that you need to consider if your children are coming to spend their holiday time with you.

Parents who have children old enough to stay home alone have additional things to worry about in terms of safety. You have to make sure that you set rules and expectations for what is appropriate while your children are alone. You also need to do your part to keep them safe.

Tips for resolving parental disputes without hurting the kids

If you've decided to become a coparent and share joint custody with your soon-to-be ex-spouse, you're bound to encounter some form of conflict with the other parent of your child at some point in the future. Although some ex-spouses can certainly pass through post-divorce parenthood without any kind of arguments, it's not that uncommon. As such, you'll want to develop an action plan for conflict resolution and build it into your divorce settlement.

The best way to address issues relating to parental conflict is through a strategically drafted parenting plan that includes various provisions for resolving disagreements.

How divorce effects retirement accounts and the use of a QRDOs

If you are seriously thinking about getting a divorce in Illinois, you likely have a lot of questions about the potential outcome of the divorce. Unless you have an ironclad prenuptial agreement, however, there is very little that anyone can accurately predict about the outcome of a divorce.

You may worry about your spouse hiding assets, who will get to keep the house or how the divorce will affect your retirement. If the courts have to make key decisions about how to divide your assets, you will have very little control over the end results of your divorce. That can feel frightening to many people.

6 cases when you should definitely divorce

No divorced spouse in Lake Zurich will tell you that the process of separating from a spouse is easy. Many of them will tell you that they were happier and more confident with themselves in the long-run, but they will rarely tell you that divorce was an enjoyable experience.

Divorced spouses -- if they were the ones who made the decision to end their marriage -- will also tell you that it was an extremely difficult choice to make. In fact, some people debate for years about whether they should end their marriages. If you're experiencing a back-and-forth dialog about your decision to divorce, this is normal.

Nobody said that divorce would be easy: Here's how to cope

Nobody promised that divorce will be a happy experience. Although numerous couples are publicising their divorces as celebrations with "divorce parties" the reality of divorce in the vast majority of cases is that it's not easy; it doesn't feel good; and it's not a "party."

Getting a divorce could reflect the loss of a dream, it involves the painful task of "getting real," and the financial, legal, parenting and emotional aspects of divorce can be overwhelming.